Relationship Analysis: Is the Cookie Really Over?
Divorce is really bad for children. In the past we often stayed together 'because of the children', nowadays we no longer consider that a good reason.
It's all about mom and dad being happy and being able to develop themselves; then the children will be happy too. Or so we think. Yet it is becoming increasingly clear that 'staying together for the children' does indeed make sense. If the plates fly through the room every day, it's a different story. But research shows that children are not bothered by it if their parents, for example, live past each other or share little love. As long as children have the idea that their environment is stable, they are fine with it. Divorce, on the other hand, can be very traumatic for them, especially if parents continue to argue with each other after the divorce. Every year, seventy thousand children are confronted with parents who divorce and a third of them have twice as many problems as children from a 'complete' family, according to the report 'Divorce Children' by Utrecht scientist Ed Spruijt. He conducted research among 1659 young people between the ages of 12 and 16 and looked at 150 studies from the Netherlands and abroad. According to him, children of divorced parents are more likely to suffer from depressive feelings and aggressive behavior, perform worse at school and are more susceptible to risky habits such as smoking, smoking weed and drinking. They are also twice as likely to get divorced themselves later.
