Co-parents are okay

Marjoleine de Boorder is a mediator at law firm De Boorder Schoots: “I don’t think everyone can do it, co-parenting. You have to step over your own shadow and it only works if you can talk well. If you remain full of resentment and can’t get over the divorce, it won’t work. You have to be able to talk to each other normally. You don’t have to be friends, but you do have to be able to agree on things. It really takes something from people to do it well. I think there is a lot to improve in the upbringing of people who are going through a divorce. They sometimes have to put themselves aside for a while. There is no need to divide everything strictly fifty-fifty. See what is feasible. A situation has to be created in which the children feel safe with both parents. The best thing is two houses, close to each other, in which you can both rebuild your own lives and build your own nest.”